I don't share my interactions with men often because no one cares but I had to jump on here and share this.
Here's a bit of background on the situation, so the wifi at my house is BULLSHIT. It was fine before AT&T decided to send a technician to our house on their own accord when all we did was ask why the cable was so damn expensive (think they slick). Since Alejandro installed their new way of running wifi through homes, we have not had a stable wifi connection for more than 2 hours at a time. They still take that money out though
So today I woke up not wanting to deal with the bullshit. I'm going to the Starbucks around the corner to get some work done. I get dressed, put my head wrap on and put my headphones in to set off on my journey. Now, I was almost there until I was pulled up on by a man on a bike. I had already peeped dude riding slowly behind me but I just figured he would look at my ass and then ride past without speaking to me. I mean I was walking BRISKLY WITH HEADPHONES IN, A UNIVERSAL SIGN TO LEAVE ME ALONE. Clearly, I was wrong, he stops to ask me if I know where a corner store is so he could buy some swishers. He tells me he just moved here and blah blah blah so I respond and the conversation takes a sharp left. He asks me am I sexually fluid "not a slut" but basically would I let a man I just met hit. SIR? MIND YOU HE HASN'T ASKED MY NAME YET. So if you know me then you know I have a hard time controlling my facial expressions. I'm looking rather confused so then he laughs and says "oh so you're a virgin then?" because I was looking like he had me fucked up (which he did) and not saying anything. I respond with, "that's my business and I don't even know you..". HE KEEPS GOING saying, "so a dude has to marry you to ____?" He said something else that pissed me off but I don't have the energy to remember so y'all won't know but he rode off on his bike and that was the end of that. He may have a mental illness or something.
My whole issue with this is...he felt that comfortable to ask me all those personal questions but it didn't occur to this grown ass man to ask what my name was until 15 minutes into a 20- minute conversation.What part of my overall appearance, the way I spoke to you, or anything, in general gave you the impression that I would even entertain that. He didn't even wait to do it via text like they usually do. I'm not going to sit up here and go "all men are trash" because they aren't. I know some good men but what I'm finding is that a lot of men don't know how to speak to women, NOT GIRLS, but women. I saw that whole interaction going a different way had he approached me right because he was attractive. I'm not gon cap like he wasn't. I just know how I should be spoken too and that ain't it. I'm never going for no dumb shit like that.
Next time, ask a woman her name before you feel comfortable enough to ask about her sexual past or if she's a freak. Thanx -management
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