Let me start by reminding the world that older siblings view their younger siblings like their own kids. That's if you're a good older sibling. Go debate your mother. With this being said, my little sister is 8 days away from her 16th birthday. Now, I haven't lived with my sister consistently for more than half her life. Our parents were separated and later divorced. I basically stayed with my dad because I had a life in Georgia and my sister went with my mom (my grandma for a little while as well).
So here we are, I've just moved in with my mom and sister as a fresh college graduate. I've been living in California with them going on 3 months now. Being around my sister now is completely different because she's a full blown teenager. Being around a teenager who is going through their own emotional struggles is tiring. My sister is moody, she is antisocial, she is easily angered and very sensitive. My sister also suffers from depression. Trying to break through to her at times is frustrating and I feel like I can't connect to her sometimes. I try to put her own game about being a young woman, navigating friendships and relationships, and realizing her own beauty. She doesn't listen to shit I say and I don't blame her because she's been on her own out here.
Really, I find myself wanting to protect my sister from everything that could hurt her. I don't want her to experience any pain in this world because she's really my best friend. We have always had an incredible bond (why are my eyes watering). She's me but she's just 15-year-old version. I have found out so many things about my sister in these past three months that have blown my mind. She has a whole life that's just hers. Hell, half of my advice doesn't even apply anymore. It's hard for me to hear her tell me these things because I don't want her to grow up. Well jokes on me bitch. She living her life. I just said it was hard for me to witness but it's also beautiful. It makes me feel closer to her. My sister doesn't let people in. You won't know unless she tells you and she let me in. I love her for that.
I guess this is just me virtually coming to terms with the fact that my sister isn't a baby. She's different from how I remember her to be. She's her own person and she will make her own decisions, right or wrong. Time will be her teacher now. If she needs me, I'll always be there.
Bye Lana (I used to call her that when she was little).
WHAT'S GOOD ILANI THE 16-YEAR-OLD?! LMAO.
Update: It's two days after her birthday and we just got into an argument about a ponytail. I take back everything I said earlier. She can kick rocks. JUST KIDDING.
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