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Writer's pictureTiya T.

Insecurities are a mf: Season 4 Ep 4 Recap

Is anyone else having trouble with the time lapses in the show? I know it's not an essential detail to the storyline, but the intellectual in me is thinking through these situations logically, and not knowing how much time is passing between episodes is bothering me. I need to know how long Lawrence and Issa have been broken up or how long Condola and Lawrence were officially dating (EMPHASIS ON THE WERE) or when Tiffany got pregnant (the math not mathing bruh). All I know is that no one throws a block party at the beginning of January, so that's how I know this fictional cable television show is not a good representation of reality.

Episode Four, Lowkey Losin' It Synopsis via HBO:

The girls get together to help Tiffany with her new baby girl. Later, Issa struggles to finalize key details for the block party and turns to Molly to leverage Andrew's connections.


SPOILERS BELOW (not that you should even be reading this if you haven't watched the episode)

I feel like I'm watching the same episode over and over again but I don't have a problem with that. In fact, I think that's very indicative of what the average person's life is like – niggas learn lessons the hard way. People will make the same mistakes over and over and over again until they decide they've had enough and like Aunt Tabitha says "that's your business." What we can't do is project those decisions on other people though...which is where the characters start to piss me (and everyone else) off.


I like that this episode shined a light on what it is like to date an ambitious person. We know Molly is a successful lawyer, and Andrew is a marketing consultant for LiveNation. As shown, balancing work and a blossoming relationship can be a challenge. Molly put Andrew on the back burner for work more than a few times this episode, and as a result, he made other plans with his friends after their date night.

This upset Molly and rightfully so because why wouldn't she want to go back to her place with her man and spend the night with him? She lied, of course, and told him everything was all good when it wasn't but in a few days, she ended up making up with him (sparked by Issa but we'll get to that in a second) and affirms that he is a main priority in her life. We have another case of "new Molly" using her words...if she could use her words with everyone in her life that would be great. Here is my thing with Molly and Andrew...I don't think he wants to be in a full-blown relationship with her right now. If you notice, Andrew never really seems invested in her work life or the stresses that come with it. He even fake snored when she was trying to confide with him about overwhelmed she felt. He doesn't really share any of his work stress or much of anything else with her either even though they had a discussion that he would work on opening up more. In reality, "new Molly" is really old Molly and we see that several times in this episode. When Molly, Kelli, and Issa meet up at Tiffany's house to catch up with her and help with the baby...Molly was quick to jump into defense mode after Issa made a HARMLESS Red Table Talk joke when Molly began talking about supportive partners. First of all ma'am, you're goofy for lying to your friends saying Andrew is there for you when you are stressed and that he "gets it" when that man could give a fuck. It is clear that Molly wants a relationship but hasn't figured out how to juggle one with her career.

Molly is finally fitting in with coworkers and finding her niche at the firm, so I see her wanting to continue to go above and beyond for them. She needs someone who accepts her drive and is equally invested in having a relationship. Andrew does not give me that vibe anymore. Earlier, sure because he pursued her heavy in the beginning, and she gave him a hard time, was overly defensive, and broke up with him over that span. You add the fact she's been neglecting him somewhat for work. That whole line he gave her when they made up about him trying to figure out where he fits in her life and THE FACIAL EXPRESSION that accompanied that statement makes me think he's not focused on being serious. I'm interested to see how this progresses, seeing as how this is the only relationship in her life where she is capable of communicating like a grown adult.


Enough about Molly and Andrew, the episode later finds Issa pretending to have a receptionist named Sapphire when being confronted by the printer about the block party fliers. THIS TOOK ME OUT! I love seeing Issa this way, being industrious, and dedicated to her passion. This is who she is, and even though she's been experiencing setbacks, she is thriving. Speaking of setbacks, we find that Issa has been reaching out to Condola for days with no response. I know its days because I was streaming the episode on my tv and paused it - those dates in that message thread from November 30th to December 6th when Condola finally responded to her with an "I'll call you after work" and never called because she's raggedy.

First of all, where the fuck are you, Condo? She and Issa agreed they would not let Lawrence affect their working relationship...TWICE. So why in the whole fuck did you ghost her for days when you know y'all have things to get in order for the block party? Whatever happened with Lawrence... happened with Lawrence Ms.Kanekalon. If you were beefing with Lawrence on Thanksgiving, take that elsewhere, don't bring that to the block party. It's just disheartening and annoying that she is taking that out on Issa, and Issa doesn't even know she and Lawrence are on the outs yet! Issa is genuinely lost and confused. When Lawrence is about to update her on the status of his and Condom's relationship, Issa gets a call that her headliner, Schoolboy Q, dropped out of the block party, which is AWFULLY convenient since Condola is nowhere to be found. The block party is set to happen next episode, and even if we find out there was another reason outside of Lawrence for why Condola went ghost, it is still wack. You are grown, and sending Issa a text to say you're handling some personal business would have sufficed. They're all 30 or over so the fact they're acting like me is disturbing me and my homegirls.

Issa and Molly. I'm tired of repeating myself, so I won't. You all know what I said and what I will continue to say about how they can begin to heal the fractures in their friendship or decide its best they weren't friends, but regardless I'm still going to call them on their shit since they won't do it.

Issa and Molly are continuing to bump heads and they both ask Kelli and Tiffany if the other has mentioned anything about the other, which they both deny. Props to them for not taking sides because I'm sure they're used to them fighting. Two statements stood out to me when they talked with Kelli and Tiffany – Issa told Kelli that Molly has been coming for her neck a lot lately saying,

"I think Molly sees me how she sees me."

implying that Molly can't see Issa leveling up, she can only see her as messy or someone who is continuously dependent on her. I agree with this so much because a large part of Issa's identity in Molly's life is Molly coming in and saving the day (hence the friendship song Issa stay singing). Kelli tells Issa to talk to her about it. Molly tells Tiffany that Issa has some nerve to say ANYTHING about her life saying,

"She thinks I don't want to be happy."

and I don't think that's a finite statement. As I've said before, Molly has this script in her head of how her life is supposed to go and the roles people are supposed to play that she can't let go. AGAIN, you see the maliciousness behind her words, and quite frankly, the "you cannot give me any advice because I'm doing better than you in all areas" attitude Molly constantly has toward Issa. Tiffany thinks its a communication breakdown and tells her to bring it up to Issa.

After Issa finds out her headliner dropped out of the block party, she hits up Molly as a last resort. Molly answers thinking this is their chance to fix things and immediately starts venting but Issa interrupts her with the "...yeah that's crazy...so anyway can you ask Andrew to leverage some of his LiveNation connections for me?"I'm not sure how Issa can even ask that considering their friendship is in the gutter. I get she's trying to utilize any connection she has because of Condom going ghost but they haven't been right for a minute. If I were Molly I would have felt way more comfortable if I felt like she considered our issues first. However, I can't even agree with Molly for long because she IMMEDIATELY starts accusing Issa of fucking up the contract with the headliner. Didn't I just tell y'all how she sees Issa? MAN. Anyway, Molly reluctantly agrees to help Issa. Long story short, Molly never asked Andrew for help on Issa's behalf, telling her that this relationship is important to her and she wants to keep it separate. First of all, the relationship was never separate Mollith.

Molly met Andrew because of Issa, she gave him a chance last season because of Issa pushing her to do so, hell the argument they had this episode, their makeup was sparked because of Issa whether Molly admits it or not. Just say she hurt your feelings and now you want to hurt her and be done with it but don't make up shit that's not true for the sake of you "growing." Cut the cap. Then in the trailer preview for the next episode, Molly told Andrew she doesn't even want to attend the block party. Since day one, Molly has shitted on or half-ass supported Issa and this block party. I'm tired.


Well, this is the end of my episode recap. Let me know your thoughts on this week's episode and predictions for next week's episode! Last week's recap is HERE.

Me outside the Insecure writers room if they ruin Issa's block party

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